It's Not That I Need Easy Right Now…

(But I Just Can't Have So Hard)

There's this line in Eat Pray Love when Julia Roberts says, "It's not that I need easy right now. I just can't have so hard."

Doesn't that just hit you right in the feels?

Because sometimes, life feels like it's throwing bowling balls at you while you're just trying to carry your groceries and keep your hair from frizzing. You're not asking for an all-expenses-paid luxury cruise through the calm seas of Easy Town. You just need the waves to stop knocking you over for a minute so you can catch your breath.

Here's the thing; what if "hard" isn't always the enemy?
What if we could rock the hard? Maybe even…enjoy parts of it?

1. Reframe the Hard

Instead of labeling something as "hard" and leaving it there like a cold lump on your plate, try to look at it as training. This is your resilience gym.
A breakup? Emotional strength training.
A job change? Problem-solving boot camp.
A health setback? A masterclass in patience and self-care.
When you shift your perspective, "hard" becomes "building." And building means growth.

2. Micro-Easy Moments

Even when the overall picture is tough, we can sneak in pockets of ease.

Light a candle while you answer stressful emails.

Take your coffee to a sunny spot for five minutes.

Put on music that makes you feel like a movie star walking into a fabulous life.
Tiny moments of joy break up the hard so it's not all-consuming.

3. Call in the Helpers

We are not meant to muscle through everything solo.
Text a friend: "I'm in the thick of it. Tell me something funny."
Hire help if you can; someone to clean, cook, or run an errand.
And remember: letting people help you isn't weakness, it's generosity. You're giving them the gift of being part of your life.

4. Modalities That Melt the Hard

This is where the magic comes in. Tools and practices that soften the sharp edges of stress:

Breathwork: Slow, deep breathing calms your nervous system in minutes.

Movement: A walk, dance in your kitchen, or stretching gets energy unstuck.

Journaling: Spill your thoughts out on paper to clear the mental clutter.

Meditation: Even two minutes can reset your mind.

Reiki or Energy Work: My personal go-to for shifting stuck emotional weight.

5. Get Jazzed About the Challenge

What if instead of groaning, we said: "Okay life, I see you. Let's dance."
There's a weird power that comes from leaning into the hard with curiosity.
Not, "Why me?" but "Why not me?" or "Let's see what I'm made of."
That shift, from victim to co-creator, turns the hard into a proving ground for your next-level self.

Hard is inevitable. Easy is a blessing. But the middle ground...the place where we soften the hard and sweeten it with moments of light...that's where resilience lives.

We don't need the easy to thrive.
We just need to make the hard…softer.
And in that space, we can keep moving, keep growing, and maybe even smile while we do it.

Because sweetheart, you've rocked hard before and you will again.
And this time? You might even sway with it.

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