AIM HIGHER, DARLING

You know what's funny? I've been taking life lessons from someone more than half my age lately.

She's at the very start of her career, fresh-faced and full of nerves. She recently quit a job after just four days because it didn't feel right. Her anxiety was through the roof. Her intuition was waving red flags like it was directing traffic. And even though people told her she was making a mistake, she walked away. No backup plan. Just a strong, internal knowing that this isn't it.

But then, two days later, out of the blue, she lands a better opportunity. No interview needed. Just a yes.

Now here's where this becomes more than just a sweet little story about youthful bravery...

See, by the time you've hit your 40s, 50s, 60s, you've accrued a whole lot of living..ups, downs and everything in between. You've had the rug pulled out from under you a few times. You've made bold moves that didn't work out. You've been passed over, misunderstood, underpaid, overextended, and probably ghosted by a recruiter or two.

And what happens over time is this: You start to doubt your gut.
You tell yourself to just be grateful for what you've got.
You think, Who am I to want more?
You shrink. You settle. You get safe.

Because the world has a way of conditioning us to believe that desire is dangerous, and that entitlement, especially past a certain age, is a dirty word.

But I'm here to remind you of something:

You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to pivot.
You are allowed to change your mind.
You are allowed to change your career.
You are allowed to change WHATEVER, if it makes you feel better.

And you are especially allowed to trust your intuition, even if it's been bruised by life. Even if the last time you followed it, it didn't lead where you hoped. Even if it whispers instead of shouts now.

Because maybe, just maybe, it's not broken. It's just waiting for you to listen again.

And that's what I'm doing these days - listening.
Slowly. Impatiently. But yes, I'm listening.
And things are shifting. Small things. Good things. Encouraging things.

It hasn't all fallen into place (yet). But I'm learning from the boldness of the young, and I'm letting it teach me something about myself.

So if you're in midlife and thinking you've missed your chance or that you're asking for too much, I'm here to say this:

Aim higher, darling.

And sure, I know we have responsibilities. Sometimes we can't just leap headfirst into every heart-led adventure. But we can still move toward what feels right, even while taking care of the necessary.

Because you get to want more, as you find that balance 🩷